Family Constellation Work
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Family Constellation Work is a therapeutic process designed to reveal the inter-generational dynamics within a family system and address the conscious and unconscious entanglements. As these entanglements become conscious, there is a clarity that arises and the way to healing them becomes evident.
I attended my first Family Constellation in 2010, and although I was only a representative in the constellation, I had a deep healing regarding my father. The experience stayed with me and the question that arose was this: - How can such deep, generational work happen in a such a simple and efficient way? |
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In 2015, I attended Family Constellation circles in the SF Bay Area, as a representative and received my own constellation. In 2016, I attended my first facilitator training. And, I began to understand my lingering question.
One of the answers is by following the Orders of Love:
One of the answers is by following the Orders of Love:
- Acknowledging What Is
- The importance of Belonging
- Sibling Order
- Balance of Giving and Taking
- Taking Responsibility and Addressing Transgressions
Family Constellations take place as 1-on-1 sessions, or in a group setting. They are led by a facilitator and can be held either online or in person. In both forms, the facilitator and client meet beforehand to get acquainted and discuss the current issue at hand, and set intentions for the work. In the group setting, the facilitator asks group members to serve as "representatives" for members within the family system, i.e. mother, great-uncle, etc.
With mindfulness and by observing the Orders of Love, the facilitator guides the representatives through a process in which unconscious family dynamics become clear and entanglements, both conscious and unconscious, come to the surface for healing. In the 1-on-1 session, the facilitator uses symbolic objects to create a tableau which represents the family system. A Constellation can create a ripple effect from the client to the entire family system, which often results in new ways of being with ourselves and in relationship to our families.
With mindfulness and by observing the Orders of Love, the facilitator guides the representatives through a process in which unconscious family dynamics become clear and entanglements, both conscious and unconscious, come to the surface for healing. In the 1-on-1 session, the facilitator uses symbolic objects to create a tableau which represents the family system. A Constellation can create a ripple effect from the client to the entire family system, which often results in new ways of being with ourselves and in relationship to our families.
"Energy goes where attention flows." J. Redfield
A Family Constellation includes:
- A Complimentary Consultation: A time for us to get acquainted and set intentions for our work together.
- Individual or Group Constellation: 2 hrs
- Follow-up appointment (optional): 4-6 weeks later. This is a time to integrate the Constellation.
In their own words:
"I came to Tomi for a constellation because I wanted to heal the wound of my mother leaving when I was a child that played out in co-dependency in romantic partnership. I knew that I wanted to heal my family, and myself, and learn to love in a more coherent way. My session with Tomi was so powerful--I could feel the shifts in my body and in the field each step of the way. During the integration period I had an increasing sense of a deeper sense of self emerging, and then after our integration session it was like a lock clicking open. Almost every day now I have a moment where I can see and feel access to choice--choice to not abandon myself while also staying in loving, clear connection with the other people in my life. Constellation work is a gentle yet potent and elegant way to transform fundamental patterns of harm into choice and love." U.F. 9/2020
"I was so blessed to receive a Family Constellations reading with Tomi. Tomi was incredible at holding space for me to listen to my intuition and also channeled accurate messages from the energy of each of my family members. Tomi is very intuitive and also makes you feel comfortable to be vulnerable. It was a beautiful process and I could feel how this moved emotions within me and also ancestral energies. I was able to see and understand my patterns and belief systems around the topic of money. After the session, I felt more empowered to write & create a new story for myself. I highly recommend doing a session with Tomi". D.S. 10/22
"I came to Tomi for a constellation because I wanted to heal the wound of my mother leaving when I was a child that played out in co-dependency in romantic partnership. I knew that I wanted to heal my family, and myself, and learn to love in a more coherent way. My session with Tomi was so powerful--I could feel the shifts in my body and in the field each step of the way. During the integration period I had an increasing sense of a deeper sense of self emerging, and then after our integration session it was like a lock clicking open. Almost every day now I have a moment where I can see and feel access to choice--choice to not abandon myself while also staying in loving, clear connection with the other people in my life. Constellation work is a gentle yet potent and elegant way to transform fundamental patterns of harm into choice and love." U.F. 9/2020
"I was so blessed to receive a Family Constellations reading with Tomi. Tomi was incredible at holding space for me to listen to my intuition and also channeled accurate messages from the energy of each of my family members. Tomi is very intuitive and also makes you feel comfortable to be vulnerable. It was a beautiful process and I could feel how this moved emotions within me and also ancestral energies. I was able to see and understand my patterns and belief systems around the topic of money. After the session, I felt more empowered to write & create a new story for myself. I highly recommend doing a session with Tomi". D.S. 10/22
